Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Masturbation

I’m a girl and I struggle with masturbation and porn. I’ve tried to stop for years and will be successful for awhile but will always slide back. I know this is a common struggle for men…but I don’t hear of many girls who struggle with masturbation in particular. Are there any resources or suggestions you have?

We have an entire section of resources for women who struggle with sex/porn addiction.

soft porn- good or bad?

My teacher who is a certified psychiatrist and therapist ( he has a license) and is very knowledgeable said that hardcore pornography is not good for us (things like gang rape) but that certain types of porn are healthy for people, as it Is used in treating couples with sexual dysfunctions. Learning about that caused a new struggle within me. I had been off of masturbating for about three months but I began to doubt the negative effects of porn and fell back into it. I still feel that even “soft” porn is harmful to me because it has a domino effect as I have learned from experience. I know that I will need increasingly more hard core porn in order to find satisfaction in the future. I started with a picture but I am afraid I will continue toward old ways. Can you please give me some discernment here?

I think your discernment is pretty good:

I still feel that even “soft” porn is harmful to me because it has a domino effect as I have learned from experience. I know that I will need increasingly more hard core porn in order to find satisfaction in the future.

I don’t know what more to say because this really says it all.

Porn is Porn

Pornography

I’ve always tried to be godly but for the past four years I’ve been addicted to porn. It’s hurt relationships, my trust, and even my self esteem. I’ve tried to get help before but every time I end up going back to the porn. How do you go about truly eliminating it from your life?

Kenny,

Freedom is possible. Accountabilty is key and you have to use it the way it was intended. Craig has a great book called Open that goes into great detail about it. You also need to remove stumbling blocks and start to reprogram your thinking and actions. Spend some time in the students and men sections at XXXchurch reading blogs and going through all of the resources.