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when a christian having holy spirit in him,is tempted and he failed and sin,then holy spirit go away from his life forever?
God sent us a “helper” called the Holy Spirit (John 14:16 & 26). God knows we are not going to live a perfect life. Only Jesus can do that…but Jesus IN us can help us when we are tempted to resist that temptation (James 4:7). We are all going to fall short and sin but we need to avoid a ‘lifestyle’ of sin. When we fail we need to aknowledge that to God (confess our sin) and ask for His forgiveness and begin to walk in a more righteous way (repentance).
If you fall- get back up! The bible tells us that though a righteous man falls– he gets back up again (Prov 24:16)!
So last year I submitted a confession, and I received a great amount of support and prayer. It helped me a lot. I even got 4 books for free, and I didnt read them as much then, because i was just THAT deep into self shame. I read them all a few weeks ago though. They helped me look at sex and lust and everything differently. Like, I never thought of my body as Gods. I never thought of it as the Holy Spirits. It’s like not wanting to break something that isn’t yours–and you handle it with extra care. Before I read the books to figure that out, I’d be doing a lot of stupid stuff. I sat in front of a computer with a camera on and when men (even woman) would ask to see me, I’d stand up and show the self harm scars on my thighs. I went from lust to anger so quickly. I never gave them a chance to say something or leave, cause I’d do that first. But now, looking at it all, I really damaged Gods body. I don’t know why I did any of it. Sex wasn’t something that looked pleasing to me, in fact I hated sex and the idea of it because I was molested (& I feel like I still do get molested. I feel no trust in anyone.) and I have come to the conclusion that the reason why I got addicted to porn was to try to make something horrible to me, pleasurable. It scared me. I didn’t want that. So many people would say, “ahh I need sex”. And i’d just be like, “why? Why is it so pleasurable?” I can’t even stand looking at myself in the mirror or wearing the same clothes or even sleeping with the same blankets from all the times that I have tried to discover pleasure. All I discovered was hate. And I got to porn, and I am learning to control that addiction, but how do I control this anger and self hate? I’m so tired. Yes, God forgives me. But, I do not forgive myself.
I think there are layers of pain that you are continuing to cover up with other things… the problem is those other things (the porn/ casual sex/ webcam stuff) are just more layers of harm that actually exacerbate the original pain. In other words there are much deeper root issues that must be addressed in order for the pain and the anger to subside. I would recommend that you seek out some professional counseling to help you work through some of those things at a pace you can handle. Sometimes the pain intensifies when we start to pull the layers off…but ultimately you need to get to the bottom so you can heal properly.
Let God lead you through the healing.
Hi I am 16 years old and have been struggling with porn for about 2 or 3 years now. I am done I dont want this anymore I dont want the urge anymore. I go to church every sunday but no one would ever know that im that one kid that struggles with porn. I feel very bad about it and I just wanna stop. I know its not right. Please help me
You are not alone but we understand the shame and embarassment that keeps you from confessing your struggles with those in your life. However, it is in confession and accountability that we believe you will find help and move forward in victory over this. Reach out to your youth pastor, or pastor or an adult in church that you trust. We also have a lot of resources in the students section of our website.
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