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Frequently Asked Questions.
Would quitting pornography for lent be a good way to go?
Quitting porn is the way to go. When you do that is entirely up to you. I think more than putting a timeline on this perhaps focus on putting into place good boundaries, accountability and being consistently pro-active in those things as well as self control and discipline and you’ll have a really good start! Be sure to check out the many resources offered to you in the students section of XXXchurch.com
Hi, I have watched pornography and masturbate for the last five years. I am feeling very bad about this. It is what burns me everyday and I can’t take it anymore. I talked to my father who is Christian about my problem and he prayed for me after I confessed but it was two years ago. I have tried many times to stop but the temptation overcomes me. I want to be free from this, it darkens my days. What can I do ? PS: English is not my native language, I hope everything is clear.
We offer so many free resources including blogs and articles. I would recommend that you spend some time reading through them and then put things into place. It’s not what we know its what we do with it.
What about talking with your father again? Let him know you are still really struggling and you need his help with accountability.
My question is regarding everyday attraction to women. My question is how i can better deal with being around women that i find attractive. To give an example, today i am at the library and am trying to concentrate on what i am reading, but find that a girl close to me is attractive and it seems that I start to fantasize and feel like i need some type of outlet from my thoughts. I have a “Creating a Victorious Environment” sheet i got from reading the book Pure Eyes and am looking to enter a remedy action for those moments. Could you please help me find that remedy action? Thanks!
This is a great question … and a very common one. Realize that you will always be faced with visual distractions … even at the library. This is why you need a variety of remedy actions that can fit your situation. Remedy actions differ for everybody but here’s some basic ones that work for most people.
1. Leave. This may sound impractical but leaving the area where you are being tempted is the best solution always. Find a new spot in the library or check the book out & go home. The bottom line is you need to remove yourself from those situations that are trigger prone.
2. Confess. There is a significant power in confession. This means recognizing what you are doing is a problem and owning it before God. Sometimes this act in and of itself is something that can get your mind clear.
3. Reach out to your accountability partner. This is like confessing except your talking to a person and not God. Call or text your accountability partner and let them know what’s happening. Hear what they have to say and then have the courage to do what they recommend.
Best wishes!!
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