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does the free down load block the porn website,or does it just notify your friends that you choose to help you?

How far is too far?

I first learned about this website in a study Bible. I have not gone onto any porn magazines or websites, but am constantly wondering how far is too far? I found sex an interesting topic and want to be able to learn about it in a way that is not pornographic. I tried wikipedia but it had some naked people on it and I am doing everything I can not to return. Is it okay for me to want to learn more about sex? And if it is where can I learn about it in the right way?

Hey Caleb,

Hit up [email protected] she has a resource for you! Mention this confession when you email.

Sexual immorality- help!

So I was addicted to porn for a few years on and off during high school but always new it was wrong. I finally got X3, a few accountability partners, and some incentive to pursue Jesus and got over my addiction! Pretty awesome. For some time I’ve been dealing with masturbation and actually trying to quit. I actually did the 15 day challenge but shortly after got back in the groove. With all of this, honestly I’m wicked horny. Like I know that I think of sex more than any of my friends (even the ones who do have sex). With all of this struggling, my girlfriend and I have been really struggling and things have gotten pretty physical lately. Like we always know it’s wrong and always catch ourselves, but I’m scared we won’t and so is she. We’ve stopped making out (as that’s where everything usually starts), but Im just scared and thought someone who is older and may have been through this could help me with some advice, things to do or try, or something. Also, it’s not like my girlfriend isn’t Christian. She’s seriously an amazing girl who loves Jesus and is by far out of my league. We both know any form is sexual stuff is wrong and understand and grasp why Jesus doesn’t want us to and how Im Supposed to be a picture of Him and she’s an image of the church. I feel like im degrading her and wish that I could go back and just smack myself. Like I know they joke about guys not having enough blood to run their brain and schlong but it’s true. I just need some advice about the whole thing. I’d appreciate anything. I feel like all guys with serious girlfriends struggle with this and I can’t figure out how they don’t mess up. Or is it just that no one talks about it? Thanks

You are right that this is a normal desire. Especially towards someone you love and care about. However you are also right when you say that you feel like you are degrading her (and yourself) by stepping outside of the boundaries. Oh wait! It doesn’t sound like you have them in place yet. Every couple that I know who remained pure throughout their relationships had boundaries and true accountability in place. A boundary is often looked at as a bad thing or a punishment — it is the exact opposite. A good boundary to have in place would be zero alone time behind closed doors. Yep, you read that right. Clearly you are not going to have sex in the middle of Central Park or at a restaurant or on a double date with another couple (and if you do there are bigger fish to fry!) So my take is to stay public with your relationship. Have accountability in place. Accountability to the extent that you talk to someone you know and trust about this and you ask them to ask you about it and your boundaries often to hold you accountable. The same goes for your girlfriend.

If you really want to honor her and God in the relationship you will do whatever it takes to hold onto integrity.

Check out Craig Gross’ new book OPEN which talks all about accountability, who needs it, and what it should look like.

Best wishes!