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Mental thoughts

Hi I am trying to stop my addiction and I can’t stop. I have it bad to where it is a daily thing, it’s become a habit. I have taken safari off my phone, but I am still struggling with sexual thoughts and masturbating to them. I need help and prayers. Sincerely, Ethan

5 Year Porn Addiction

I’ve been addicted to porn since I was 11. I am so sick of letting it control my life. I’ve had times where I’d stop for awhile and think that I was done for good, but I always ended up going back to it. Every time I read about quitting peoples number 1 advice is always “find someone to be accountable too” and I get that but I honestly have no one I trust enough to reach out to. I go to church but we don’t have any youth pastors. I have friends but I know that none of them have ever had a porn addiction so they wouldn’t understand and wouldn’t be able to help me, they’d probably just tell me to stop (which I’ve tried) but it’s not that simple. And I DEFINITELY can’t tell my parents, they’re very strict about this kinda stuff and if they knew I’ve ever even seen porn (let alone that I have an addiction to it) they would be disgusted with me and their solution would be to just take everything away and tell me how ashamed they are of me, and although I couldn’t look at it anymore, it’s still not really helpful. I don’t understand how I let it get so out of control. Is it possible to do it on my own? If not, looks like I’m stuck.

Dear Bethany,

I know the thought of bringing your addiction into the light is a scary one but this sin thrives in darkness and isolation.

Craig Gross the founder of XXXchurch has a new book out called “OPEN” please consider getting a copy as it will really dive into what accountability really is, what it should look like and how to go about setting it up in your life.

You are definitely not alone.

God bless you.

sin and salvation

I heard somewhere that if we continue with sinful habits then we’re not truly born again nor are we Christians. He used a lot of verses that made sense. “If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth.” 1 John 1:6 “No one born of God makes a practice of sinning, for God’s seed abides in him, and he cannot keep on sinning because he has been born of God.” 1 John 3:9 “If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left” Hebrews 10:26 I’ve been struggling with porn, lust, and masturbation for years. I came to God two years ago but it still continues just the same, if not escalating. I’ve been trying to stop ever since this began, even before I came to God. Actually, I don’t even know if I am a Christian or changed or anything if I’m still stuck in this. I’ve been trying to stop but I just can’t. So is what the guy said true? Am I not a Christian because I’m pretty much addicted? What about this freedom from sin I keep hearing about? Am I beyond help because I’ve sinned so much that God’s given up on me?

Brandon,

Can you talk with your pastor, an accountability partner or friend? I think God is more concerned with your shame and the fact that you are living in bondage when He wants you to walk in freedom for your good. He is not shaking a finger at you in disgust- he is broken hearted that his child is struggling. He has every answer to make you whole.