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Pornography addiction

Ok I have been struggling since about freshmen year and I haven’t really been able to go a week without stopping the longest I went without watching was 3 weeks but inevitably messed up I shook it off at first and said Im not doing it again but then it just became a once a week maybe twice a week thing. I know the shame is just satan’s trick but I still have a hard time coming back to God I have gotten better about it but I still mess up constantly I even had to get rid of my xbox because of the internet feature I feel like no matter what I do i will never be able to stop I always find a work around. I think im gonna talk to my dad about getting a filter on the computer. pray that I wont talk myself out of it.

Hi Nathaniel,

You are right that shame is not of God but grace, mercy, forgiveness, power and the Holy Spirit is.

Put some accountability into place by going to someone you really trust and sharing your struggles and ask them to help hold you accountable to your time, your thought life and your actions.

God is for you!

masterbation

Hey I’m Benji and I’m 17. I have been porn free for a pretty long time now, but I cant’s seem to stop masturbating. I need help, do you guys have any tips?

Pornography and masturbation addictions

Ok, hello, I have a question.. obviously. lol So, as I regret to say, I have had a real struggle with sexual fantasies, pornography, and masturbation for a very long time. I am a woman and I am 18. Just recently I have started to reach out for help with this horrible problem. I confessed to my mother and then confessed to my counselor. Next, I have been wanting to confess to my two closest friends. However, my problem is that I can’t seem to get past the thought that having these problems is so so weird. I mean, obviously, it really upsets me because it’s just soo shameful. It makes me feel like I am a weird disgusting person. I hate to feel this way, too. I don’t know, but I just would like some perspective on this maybe? I want to tell my friends, but I feel like if I do, they will just see me as sooo weird, and will never look at me the same way again. However, ya know, since they are great friends, I know they would probably support me and still accept me. But my friends, and me included, have never been able to express their opinions very well. That is kind of the main thing that the three of us have in common. It can be kind of annoying. lol (Especially when we are trying to make a decision, we all just want whatever the rest of us wants.) So that makes this real hard, telling them about such a…real… thing, that is. I don’t know if they will be able to truly look at me the same way and not just see instead a disgusting pervert.

Dear Sarah,

You are not a disgusting pervert. You are a young woman who is dealing with something that a LOT of women are dealing with but none of them are talking about it.

The key here is friends that you trust. Those friends should be reliable and dependable.

Our founder, Craig Gross has a book coming out called OPEN and it is all about accountability. I really think this book with help you know how to ask for help as well as know what healthy accountability should look like.

Please spend some time in the women’s section and also consider joining a women’s X3group.

Godspeed!