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Hi, I’m jake, and I’ve struggled with pornography and masturbation for I think 2 years now. I feel when I try to give it up, something lures me back in always, and I’ve tried to give up so many times I wonder if I should even bother. So my question is, will I be forgiven? I feel as if there’s a huge burden of sin on my relationship with The Lord . Thanks.
With this struggle we often find ourselves beating ourselves up with great strength. With this sin it drags us down into the pit and feeds us a lie in life that we have no hope, no way out, or that we are the only ones that are dealing with this. We all to often listen to these lies and believe in them allowing for this sin to take us down further.
You can change this and turn things around. You have to bring others into this with you and allow for them to love you and be able to hold you accountable for what is going on. Pray for God to show you who this person is and tell them everything that you are going through. Do not leave anything behind to keep that door to this sin open. Get yourself some good accountability software to cover you on your PC, Mac, iPhone, Ipod, or android devices. We recommend that you look into getting X3 Watch and get this going right away.
Again we can feel like we have abandoned God and we may have but, He has never left us. He has been there the whole time just begging for us to come back to Him and allow for His love to fill us again and to allow the truth to fill us once more. Remember that there is nothing that we can do that will take His love from us.
You are not alone in this and please know that we will be praying for you during this time.
I’ve been addicted for what seems like forever and I honestly don’t remember when it started. I was introduced to it by my brother when I was 6-8 and I wasn’t fascinated at the time but it was engraved in my head. He also introduced me to a forum website and I found some porn-like forums and I was drawn in, I wasn’t masturbating at the time but I enjoyed reading and watching it. My first time was an accident. The second time I was curious. The third and I was in it’s grasp. (not viewing porn while doing it yet though) A few years pass, and I join a student leadership thing and accountability is introduced and I am always lying cause I don’t wanna disappoint them. Ever since I’ve started going to this group I have been getting more and more depressed and I can’t tell anyone, and masturbating keeps the depression anyway. I really really wanna quit but there’s another part of me that doesn’t want to. And I don’t know what to do now… I’ve read the books, I’ve prayed the prayers, I’ve tried accountability and was completely honest (which was difficult and still didn’t work), I read the bible… I just don’t know what to do anymore. I would like advice on what to do now because I am more lost now then I ever have been.
We understand that this is a tough battle that you are going through right now and you need to get it under control with being such a young age. Admitting to the fact that you have and addiction to this is one of the first steps.
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
I have been doing x3 watch for the past year but I always found some other device to got to. a lfamily laptop my phone and at one time our tablet.even if I can get away from technology I use my imagination and just get worse. I feel like im being controlled when the feeling comes on. im instantly different. Im addicted. i’m a leader in my church now and am about to lead at several camps. I want to get x3 pure but it’s too much. it would require me bringing this topic up again with my parents. it was hard enough the first time to tell them. ive gotten better since then though but I don’t think I have it in me to tell them again.i feel like i’m on the brink of breaking this addiction that I just need a couple more pushes. I have a great relationship with God but I feel like im abusing his grace. I try to find accountability partners but either they don’t really do much or i feel to embarrassed. what I’ve learned is that when i’m in God’s prescence that i have no inclination to do this but my question is: is there a way to help keep up that state?
I can tell you that with this struggle that you will find yourself struggling to find purity unless you bring others into this battle with you. You will find yourself over and over trying to stop it and kick your addiction to the side but, without others you will always fall back into the pit again.
I want to encourage you to pray hard about who you can talk to about this and ask them to stand firm with you in this fight. Ask them to hold you accountable to staying pure by being your accountability partner. Get X3 Watch on your PC, Mac, iPhone, iPad, or Android device right away.
I know this will be tough to ask someone to help you and it will be tougher to tell them what you are going through but, until you do this will keep creeping back int your life.
Please know that you are not alone in this struggle and that there is nothing that you can do that will take the love of God away. He wants so desperately for you to walk away from this junk and come back to Him. Please know that I am praying for you on this.
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