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Adultery

I know I have committed adultery! But do I really have to poke my right eye out and cut off my right hand; in order to, be saved! Or can I keep them and still be saved?

No you do not need to lose anything to receive Gods forgivness. Just lose your wordly view and make the next steps.
From here you need to talk to someone about this and get accountability with your struggles. Sit down and develop a plan to cut this sin right at the knees. Place accountability software on your computer, mobile phone, and/or your mobile devices. We suggest X3 Watch for accountability software which you can download for free at www.x3watch.com or you can get the pro version which has a filter on it as well. When you do get a filter you should have your accountability partner set the password so that you can not just change it when you want to look at porn.
Another way to get good accountability and a safe place to do it is with an X3 Groups Online group. You can find out more about it at www.X3groups.com It is a great program.
You have to remove this from your life completely. Get rid of any movies, pictures, files, or any item with adult content. Destroy it and be done with it but, when you destroy it do it in a way that will not allow for this to get into someone else’s hands. If the filters and accountability software will not work then you may have to take drastic measures and remove your computer, get an older phone without Internet, or remove the Internet from your computer. It all comes down to completely removing it and the temptation from your life.
All too often we work on our habits of viewing porn instead of the reasons why we view porn. You need to get down to the root issues of why you go back to it and keep doing so. This may take some time and effort to discover this. But through talking with people about this or your accountability partner you will begin to see areas of your life, your past, and items that trigger your porn use. I strongly recommend counseling for this as they can really get there a lot faster than we can by providing great tools to deal with the items that arise.
Everyone is different but, a few things that I have found that worked in my recovery and from other I want to share with you.
Dive into the word daily. Spend time with God and find out what you have been missing and He will show you things you may not have before.
Track your day and see when you’re most prone to look at porn. From here developed a daily plan to counter attack these temptations based on your observation of your own patterns.
Discover your triggers. When you look back and think of when you were most venerable, what was going on at the time? Were you stressed out, tires, bored, angry, or lonely? These are some of the key triggers for people and you need to locate them and be aware of it. When you notice your trigger topic happening you then need to react and move away from it. It may take sometime to notice and be aware of it but, this is very important.
Share with others: this can also be tough to do but, it will help you grow and heal faster. Also we know how lonely this feels to be trapped like this to porn. We also know that when others see that there is someone else who has been through it or going through it they are more willing to seek help or talk about it. You never know this could be a start to a small group of people who meet and hold each other accountable.
Please know that you are not alone in this and that you can work through this. Yes; it will not be easy but it can be done. We are here for you and praying for you.

Confused

I was wondering, where does God and the Church stand on watching Hentai? Porn is wrong because you’re lusting over a woman who’s not your wife, but what’s wrong with lusting over Hentai as it’s not real AND impossible. Many thanks, Steve.

You already said it; it’s not yor wife. And do you think that porn is real? No way!

You need to look harder at this and know for yourelf that this is wrong. It is the same thing as porn, it is porn but, with animation.

HELP ME

I’ve always been watching porn when I was little but recently I have become addicted due after a awful heartbreak. Watching porn is wrong and in the process I feel awful but at the same time I am enjoying it. I just want it to stop! It become a habit. I know it’s wrong and it does not please God! I feel awful that I betrayed God! I will spend days repenting to God about the same thing over and over! I just want to feel that God forgives me. I want to feel that he loves me. I know he forgives and loves but I want to feel it. I want to stop watching porn because it doesn’t make God happy and it is not Christian like. I have failed him. And I feel miserable that I have rejected him. I don’t want him to be silence. If he’s silence because he’s mad at me I don’t know what to do. Am I a mistake to this world? It bothers me so much that I continue to watch porn when God does not like it. Someone please help me. I want God to love me again.

I would hold on to that for right now. You are only 19 and you have some time before you will need to do this before getting married.

I would how ever look to find good accountability and a person to do so that will hold you to your desire to be pure.

We will be praying for you.

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