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Hi, I need help desperately. I have been addicted to porn, for a long time and for the past couple of years it has been gay porn. I was introduced to it at an early age and I haven’t been able to get away from it since. I go to church every Wednesday and most Sunday’s.. I like to think I’m saved, because I have had the satisfaction of salvation and I have even been baptized. But I still cant seem to get away from pornography. Does this mean I’m gay and truly haven’t been saved and how can I stop so I can fix this problem before it gets worse???
I’m 16 ,and I’ve been struggling with masturbation and lust. You could say that this all started ever since I was young(4-6?) when I was sexual abused by my grandfather. As the years went by I’ve just let in to my sexual desires. You could say my lusts have escalated ever since the summer of fifth grade-when I found out that porn was available on the internet. From then on, every so often, I feel such a lust to watch it and masturbate. I’ve tried many times to quit, but each time I’ve failed. I’ve prayed to the LORD, but my owns lusts are empowering me. When I do finish watching these videos, I’ll feel ashamed because I imagine myself in the positions of the person in the video and realize that it is sickening of me. It seems like I’ve lost all my faith. I know God is watching and sees all my actions, but I’ve lost the desire to quit. I’m afraid of telling others around me. My parents aren’t believers and we don’t share a too intimate relationship where we tell each other everything. I’m also afraid of being know as a porn addict. Another problem that I have is that I constantly think about having a boyfriend, a husband. Lusts have taken the place of God in my heart…what advise do you have for someone who doesn’t have a desire to quit this sin and who doesn’t feel guilty about it anymore!
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
i am a child of christian parents.from my childhood i know and pray to jesus.even he has used me for doing his ministry.but i am ashamed but i have to admit that masturbation has made my life upside down.i feel very guilty,empty,forsaken and lost.my mind is always disturbed. i don’t know what to do.even my academic career has been low.watching porn has become habit but i want to leave though my heart has become hard.i want jesus back in my life
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
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