Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

Anime Porn

Hi! I was just wondering, if Hentai/Anime Porn is bad? Seen as it is just animated and not real people? My friend asked me if he could use that rather than real porn. I told him he should use neither but he is trying to stop and says he needs to ease out. So I am just asking if hentai or Anime porn is bad. Thank you for your time !

Both cause your friend to have sexual thoughts and it does not matter if it is a cartoon or not. They both are sexual images / movies that are of sexual content that will lead to sexual sin.

What to do?

I don’t know what to do anymore, I talk to my youth pastor bi-weekly and my dad at least 2 times a week and I don’t know what to do any more, I started watching porn when I was 11 or 12, and I am masturbating everyday, even when I talk about it, I don’t think I can stop!! What can I do? I have the x3 watch app on my phone, and my computer is locked down completely except for a few sites I need for school and stuff. I need help but I’m not sure what to do.

Quentin,

You locked down you computer but, you have left yourself an open door with your phone. If you want to remove this you need to remove the items that allow you access to this garbage.

Loneliness and anger towards women

I am a christian guy who is very active in the church and who has been single my whole life. I was saved at an early age, but became addicted to pornography at age 13. I was able to quit for 6 months when I was 16 and then I became good friends with a beautiful christian girl. I, my friends, and even her friends thought it would lead toward dating, but she rejected me saying that it wasn’t me, but that she wasn’t ready for a relationship. Two weeks later, she started dating a guy from bible college. I felt hurt, betrayed by God and her, and fell back into porn. I have asked 16 different christian girls out to various dances or dates and this one was the closest one to saying “yes”. Everytime I viewed porn and lusted after women, I told myself that those girls deserved it for treating me that way and that this would be the closest thing I’d ever come to being with a girl who actually liked me. I finally let go of my anger for the women in my past and I quitted porn again 3 weeks ago, but satan is constantly bringing my loneliness and failure to get a date to my mind and I need some help in staying clean. Any suggestions?

From here you need to talk to someone about this and get accountability with your struggles. Sit down and develop a plan to cut this sin right at the knees. Place accountability software on your computer, mobile phone, and/or your mobile devices. We suggest X3 Watch for accountability software which you can download for free at www.x3watch.com. You should also place a filter on your computer as well. We suggest www.safeeyes.com. This would be like having an alarm on your house and then locking the door with both of these on your computer. When you do get a filter you should have your accountability partner set the password so that you can not just change it when you want to look at porn.Another way to get good accountability and a safe place to do it is with an X3 Groups Online group. You can find out more about it at www.X3groups.com It is a great program.You have to remove this from your life completely. Get rid of any movies, pictures, files, or any item with adult content. Destroy it and be done with it but, when you destroy it do it in a way that will not allow for this to get into someone else’s hands. If the filters and accountability software will not work then you may have to take drastic measures and remove your computer, get an older phone without Internet, or remove the Internet from your computer. It all comes down to completely removing it and the temptation from your life.All too often we work on our habits of viewing porn instead of the reasons why we view porn. You need to get down to the root issues of why you go back to it and keep doing so. This may take some time and effort to discover this. But through talking with people about this or your accountability partner you will begin to see areas of your life, your past, and items that trigger your porn use. I strongly recommend counseling for this as they can really get there a lot faster than we can by providing great tools to deal with the items that arise.Everyone is different but, a few things that I have found that worked in my recovery and from other I want to share with you.Dive into the word daily. Spend time with God and find out what you have been missing and He will show you things you may not have before.Track your day and see when you’re most prone to look at porn. From here developed a daily plan to counter attack these temptations based on your observation of your own patterns.Discover your triggers. When you look back and think of when you were most venerable, what was going on at the time? Were you stressed out, tires, bored, angry, or lonely? These are some of the key triggers for people and you need to locate them and be aware of it. When you notice your trigger topic happening you then need to react and move away from it. It may take sometime to notice and be aware of it but, this is very important.Share with others: this can also be tough to do but, it will help you grow and heal faster. Also we know how lonely this feels to be trapped like this to porn. We also know that when others see that there is someone else who has been through it or going through it they are more willing to seek help or talk about it. You never know this could be a start to a small group of people who meet and hold each other accountable.Please know that you are not alone in this and that you can work through this. Yes; it will not be easy but it can be done. We are here for you and praying for you.