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Ok I’m 18 years old I’ve struggled with porn since I was about 13.Well I’ve never had a Girl Friend.But here’s the thing I’ve talked to many girls and every girl I’ve talked to has been false hope.So after so many I keep falling into temptation and watch porn and stuff!When I’ve talked to a Godly woman I find myself not thinking about it or lusting.But when I find out its a false hope like always I don’t care and watch porn and fall back to old ways!I know people will be like you need this you need that it never works I’ve known Jesus all my life didnt get saved until I was 17 and rededicated at 18 blessed with the holy spirt also at 18 so I’ve heard it before you need this or to do that it never works! So my question if I’m such this “great guy”the girls call why doesn’t it ever work out ? I try and fail everytime I know God has someone better for me I really don’t believe that! And when I get hit with false hope what is something that “may” help me from watching porn and being tempted to lust and do wrong ? Please I need help!
We understand that this is a tough battle that you are going through right now and you need to get it under control with being such a young age. Admitting to the fact that you have and addiction to this is one of the first steps.
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
How can I get rid of pornography and masturbation? Will I go to hHeaven if I keep doing it?
Hi. I have been trying to battle porn for 3 years now. It has been so hard for me. What’s making it even harder is that I’m not telling anyone about it. I don’t know how I’ll sum up the courage to tell someone. Today 10/30/12 I watched porn again after not watching it for THREE MONTHS. I feel so mad at myself. The urge just kept me up and I gave in. I watched it for so long because nothing could fulfill my need for porn. Each video I grew angrier at myself but I kept watching. I feel I can watch it for a long time because all I did was make sure my parents were asleep and I started watching it on my iPod. I should also mention that my parents are strong Christians and if they knew any of this … I don’t know what would happen. I feel as if I’m going to be severily punished by God.i tried so hard to stop. I’m trying out for the basketball team at my school and he might punish me by not making the team. I NEED to make so my parents can be proud of me. I have good grades in school but I feel that’s its not enough for them. Porn I feel is coming back stronger in my life. I need to know how to tell my parents and how to stop watching porn. PLEASE ANSWER BECAUSE I TYPED THIS ALL ON MY IPOD AND IT GAVE ME A CRAMP.
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
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