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Frequently Asked Questions.
Is it a sin to masturbate w/o lust? People say it is impossible, but I have actually done it a couple times. When I masturbate I keep my eyes open and my mind focused on something else, or nothing at all.
Yes; I do feel that this is still a sin. God tells us that sex is for two people. These people would be a husband and wife. I really have no clue how you can masturbate without having any lustful thoughts or images in your head.
A lot of the time, I hear/read about limiting exposure to porn, but while I can avoid bad images, there is still my mind. I know Jesus says to be transformed by the renewing of your mind, but I have a plethora of women, bodies, and poses stuck in my head. They comes back and assault me, tempting me. I know this is the consequence of letting the images in, but will it ever get easier? Will they only come once a year? I have been lusting since I was 12 and I am now 19–whenever I get married, will I have combined lust with sex so that my mind will be assaulted when I see my bride on our wedding night?
Sean,
We have trained our brain over time to and have fooled it by making it think we need this crap in our life to satisfy our selves. Now this process needs to take place but, in a diffrent way. Once you have removed this from your life it will take time for this to go away. Your brain thinks is still needs these images and will pop up things that it remembers trying to spark that feeling and a way to get what it THINKs it needs. Keep strong and stay on the healing path and it will slow down and go away in time.
I have been going to this church for a while that a friend had introduced me to. The messages are great, the youth groups offer so much support. However, the church is focused on teens my age and there are a lot of pretty girls there and I get these thoughts in my head. I try to shake it off and I do well most of the time. Still, I don’t like that I think like this at church. It makesme feel bad that I’m trying to worship God, but I am also letting him down. I introduced a few other friends to the church and they too are experiencing the same thing. I really don’t want to leave this church, but I don’t want to be thinking about girls all the time. What do I do? Another problem that I have is that my brother and his girlfriend have sex in the house and I can hear it. His girlfriend is reallly pretty too. I feel super disgusted that I think like this. my own brother. When I hear it, I always picture what’s going on in my head and I try not too, but It’s really unavoidable. What can I do to avoid situations like this. They normally happens at night during tje weekends.
I would really like to suggest that you ask one of the pastors at the church to talk with you about the issue at hand at church. There is more ther than just the girls being pretty. You will have this same issues at other church’s as well.
As for you brother and his girlfriend maybe you should sit down with him and just let him know what is going on. Tell him how this affects you and discuss with him some ways to avoid this.
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