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Frequently Asked Questions.
I have a pornography problem. i can’t stop and i can’t just put an accountable program on my computer bc im not the only one who uses my computer and thats weird. My accountability partners are not very good at keeping me accountable:(What should i do?
Find accountability partners who will hold you accountable. If you can not find someone then you need to remove access to the very thing that allows you to get to this sin.
If you really want to remove this from your life you have to be willing to take extrem messures and step up and cut this sin off at the knees.
I have been trying to stop masturbating for a while now. I just recently got to 3 weeks. The last two days it began hurting so bad that I couldn’t focus on anything else other then porn and masturbation. I could barely sleep and the drive to look at pornography became very strong, stronger than normal. I eventually caved and gave in before looking at pornography. I have managed to almost completely stop looking at porn for almost a year and a half. I have my weaker moments with porn but nothing like what I was doing. I can honestly say you guys have helped me get much better. I know I will eventually have to stop masturbating but how do I do that when it hurts so bad it literally felt like I had been kicked in the nuts. I’m worried that the longer I go without masturbation the more likely I am to look at porn. thanks for all your help.
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and thaGod loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
I’ve been watching porn for a couple of years and I want to stop. I feel terrible after watching it. I keep reading about talking to other people about the problem but I really don’t have anyone I could talk to about this, I don’t have a friend I can trust with something like this and I’m really afraid to talk to my parents about it, any advice?
Sean,
If you are really tired of this you need to talk to your parents or someone who you can find trust in. Maybe a pastor, youth pastor, or a teacher about what you are going through but, until you do it will keep attacking you harder and harder.
I know this will be tough but, you can do this thing. You are not alone in this and God has someone out there for you to help. I am praying for you man.
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