Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

addiction to interracial porn

hi, i am having a fantasy to watch an interracial couple have sex in front of me. i always gp clubbing and love the grinding that happens but i want more and more everyday. i watch interracial porn and i cant stop. please tell me whats the issue and how to solve?

Hey Joe,

The issue is lust. The issue is your flesh wanting to be gratified with what you have a propensity to find arrousing.

If you see this is a problem for you (and obviously by submitting this, y ou do) then we would recommend accountability and begin to set some goals in place to omit this from your lifestyle.

If you need to learn more about accountability, what it is and what it should look like, check out Craig Gross’ new book “OPEN”.

God bless

Guilt Depression

I know we all feel really guilty, sad, depressed, and scared we are going to hell when we mess up and watch porn. I have some questions about this. How much of these terrible emotions should be considered a good thing such as: a response of our conscience and the holy spirit telling us that what we did was wrong. How much should be considered a bad thing such as: discouragement from satan? How much of these emotions are from God? How much are from satan or our own foolishness? How do we tell the difference? On the one hand. Feeling guilty, ashamed, scared, depressed would seem like it is a good thing in this situation because it would show that we still care and motivate us to resist temptation. On the other hand. How much of these terrible emotions could be attributed to satan trying to discourage us to give up and stealing our joy. Using these emotions to make this addiction even more devastating than it already is? I ask this because I am so sad and depressed and scared every time I mess up and watch porn. I feel really good when I go for a long time without watching porn. I will go for a while without but I always mess up again. I am wondering about this depression. Is it normal response of my conscious or is it too much? How bad should one feel and for how long? How do you know if feeling bad is a productive motivation to help you want to quit ? …. or just a discouraging thorn the devil has placed in my side to make things worse? It seems like this depressed, shameful, and scared feeling has in the past had both good and bad effects on me. By this I mean that being depressed has discouraged me to the point that I give up and go ahead and watch porn because it makes me feel better for a brief few moments. In this case these feelings were harmful. But these bad feelings have also served as motivation for me to resist temptation. In this situation, these feelings were helpful. Thanks for your response. Wonderful website you have made here.

Dear William,

There is a great difference between conviction and guilt. Conviction is from the Holy Spirit to serve as a warning that we are treading an area that is not good for us or the Holy Spirit within us.

Guilt is from the enemy to shame you or scare you. When we heed conviction and follow God we are at peace. When we blow it and repent, the Lord is quick to forgive. If you are living in constant shame, guilt or fear then the enemy has gotten into the door of your life and you need to give him the boot!

Press into God. He is a loving Father, not a cosmic cop.

Telling Parents and/or getting an accountability Partner

I’ve been addicted to porn for a while now. I’ve been trying to get through this on my own, but that hasn’t always been going so well. I do want to turn my life around and be who God made me to be, but keep turning back to porn. How do I tell my parents and friends??

Dear Drikus,

You are not alone and I bet that those you are concerned about confessing to can actually relate to the same struggles! Do not let shame keep you from asking for help and accountability.

Craig Gross has a book that just came out called “Open”. It is about what accountability is and what it should look like. I highly recommend it for you.

Spend some time in the blogs here on XXXchurch.com and interact with others for peer to peer support and guidance.