Questions

Frequently Asked Questions.

What should I do with dating? What do you think Is healthy for my circumstances?

I really dont know how to start this but i will like this… me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year and before we had been courting (because we read Joshua Harris’s I Kissed Dating Good Bye). For a very very very long time we had a very Godly oriented relationship and we were pure. we were dating for about 9 months and we finally had our first kiss and then we instantly gave in too our sexual desires and had sex. Since then I found that I am a Rape victim. since we had sex I am struggling with sexual purity so much. I dont know what too do. I am between God, college, and what had happened I have no clue what I am. I am struggling with not having sex with her again and keeping it pure and godly focused.I dont know if it would be godly to leave her or fix the problem (which is lust in our relationship). Does anyone have any thoughts?

You need to talk to her and figure out what directions you guys need to go in. You need to lay down ground rules and guidlines to your emotional and emotional feelings so that you do not take thngs to far. YOu also need to hold each other accountable to this as well.

It would be great as well fo rthe two of you to find accountability partners and allow for them to help you two along as well. Bringin in Godly people to mentor you will help out in so many ways.

Android App Internet filter

Do you all know of any good solid internet filters that can one can use on android phones. Applications? I would like to find one that is solid in filtering anything sexually related specifically pornographic images and videos. Thanks for your time

Definition of Clean and Sober

Hey, so I’m 60 days sober today, but I looked at some porn this morning. Purely selfish question, but can I still call myself ‘clean’ if I haven’t acted out physically? Or is all this euphemism just Psychological B.S. to try and help me feel better about my bad choices? 😉 Okay, so maybe I answered my own question a bit there, but it does highlight a better underlying question: “How do I define and measure my progress in recovery?” The current Men’s Blog entry touches on it, but I’m curious if there’s a better way to say “I’m clean and sober” that doesn’t resort to ambiguous euphemisms. I don’t want to split hairs. I want to walk in the truth of my reality. I just could use a little help better defining what the truth of my reality is, you know?

So with you not looking at porn for 60 days you where clean the. Now you would not be considered clean but, in the basic steps of recovery again. If you want to be “Clean” you need to be free of all porn and not returning to it. We can all be clean but, what we need to do is walk on the side of “Real Change” the kind of change that allows for us to get back up when we fall and get right back in line of recovery and get clean again.