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My wife is pregnant with out 3rd baby and seems that her sex drive has gone way down. I look at porn and looked at other women, went onto chat rooms and spoke with other women. She knows all about this and she still forgives me for it. She knows I look at porn and still forgives me because she knows I will never do anything. I won’t. But, it could finally break through one day and I want to prevent, well I want God Almighty to stop it before the flesh wins. Has any other married man dealt with this kind of addiction? Please I’m afraid that I am alone in this area. I found porn videos in a box that belonged to my father when I was 10 years old. I didn’t grow in stable home, my family didn’t care if I watched porn or not. They were worried about themselves. Since then I have became a born again Christian, and I am married with 2 sons. I do not want my generational demons to expose my kids to porn and have them suffer as adults as I do struggle and suffer. Please I need help. I found out that we are expecting a daughter and I do not want her to get involved with this mess too. I have tried cold turkey and it hurts more. Please help me! God bless! We need a lot of prayer please?
You are definitely not alone and you are not the only married man who struggles with pornography. We have an entire section on this site devoted to couples and spouses. I do agree with you that this does have the potential to cross over into an affair or to other things if you continue on this path. I think it is great that you are aware that this is something that can generationally be passed down to your children… just like alcoholism and other addictions.
This is not going to be supernaturally zapped away. God has requirements of us. He is faithful even when we are not but He has clearly given us free will and He tells us to CHOOSE life. I think it is great that you are seeing the need for help– the need to break free and the need to walk into wholeness with your wife and family.
Start here and check out all the resources available to you. Because you mentioned preparing for the birth of your daughter, it brought to mind this open letter I recently read. May it help strengthen your resolve.
God bless you.
I watched a webinar yesterday about the 5 things husbands don’t tell their wives. 4 weeks ago I found out about some things my husband has been keeping from me. We have been working through it, but have been looking for resources. The webinar really hit home, but when i tried to share it with my husband, now we can’t find it. Is there a way for us to see it? Could we get a link? I am hopeful that your site and resources will be a help for our marriage and that webinar with both you and the other couples commentary really would b a grest start to show my husband in order to get him interested in your site.
Thank you for any help.
James Macdonald has a radio program “Walk with the Word”. He said he uses PC monitoring program, that can email his wife when questionable web surfing happens. The idea: my wife sees me install it. She puts in a password, when I see nothing. Then she can test the email system herself. She knows it works and can even dig deeper if she wants to. [ I mean the email gives a website, so she can look to make sure.] I would like it to give the LEVEL of alert, but just a thing like J. Macdonald described, that would be very useful for us.
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