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Hey 🙂 Hope you can help me with this: Since I was a little girl, i started to touch myself, and I didn’t realized that was a bad thing so I kept doing that until I knew the bible and Jesus, so I stopped, it wasn’t a problem, later when I grew up a little bit more, I couldn’t stop touching myself, I thought i could stop, but I couldn’t… Later I started to see a girl, and I realized I like that girl not as just a friend, so I kind of touch with her, since that day I am confused about my orientation. Otherwise, 2 years ago I met this asomb guy and he is my boyfriend and I love him SO MUCH and I loose my virginity with him when i was 15 years old, until this day we keep doing it and I feel no regret wish is bad and i don’t know what to do, because i feel like sometimes i am obsessed with sex with him, and not just sex, other things too. Thank u very much, sorry about my english
Hi Cindy,
Because you said you know Jesus and you know the bible– I think you will find your answers there. If you have become obsessed with sex and you are acting out with your boyfriend when you know that sex outside of marriage is not God’s design for us then I would say that you need to re-evaluate your relationship with leadership and your boyfriend. If you want to live for Jesus and live a life of purity then I think you are going to need some help from some trusted people. Its hard to stop something when you are in full momentum but it is possible. You need to decide what is more important and what is right.
Craig’s book OPEN is a great book on how accountability can help and what it should look like and why we all need it.
Best wishes to you.
I submitted a question moments ago but I’m unsure if it actually went through or not… In a much shorter condensed version I’m in need of some resources for wives of recovering porn addicts. While my husband is doing immensely well, I feel like I’m still carrying a very heavy burden of inadequacy and self image issues. I don’t feel that I’m truly physically what my husband desires and my ache in my heart continues though my husband’s burden seems to have been lifted when he confessed and was redeemed from his addiction. Could you please recommend any resources for my own personal healing and for our marriage? Thank you!
There is a resource page for spouses in the Women’s section of XXXchurch.com. I would encourage you to look through the other ministry recommendations, book recommendations, online communities etc. We also have a blog there specifically for the spouse.
Best wishes to you as your journey this with your husband. We know it is not an easy road to walk but one that God will grace you for.
I am not sure if I chose the right category. I am a concerned wife that caught internet porn on the computer a year ago in March. I have again found it on the computer again today and my husband states that he looked at it back in March and since then it just keeps popping up on the computer. I really don’t believe it works that way but I could be wrong. I am asking because my husband really needs help but I need to know the truth. Considering I ask him how it has been going just about weekly and he has lied it is very hard to trust him at this point. Mind you I do understand I need to be supportive and forgiving; just very hurt as it is a new wound again.
Hey Allison,
Take the computer to the geek squad at Best Buy and have them “clean it” and remove all traces of porn or anything that is popping up.
Do you not have a filter or porn blocker on the computer? If not, why not? X3watch is a great monitor and will also send out reports.
Best wishes
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