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Hi, from about 12 years old i began the wide easy path of porn and masterbation, staring small as you do and getting worse and worse(real bad!!!) I admit i felt guilty alot but the feeling you get was too addicting. I am now 18 by a few months and it has gotton sooo bad porn wasn’t satisfying enough so i turned to massage parlours as i was now legal!!!! and im afraid to say im not a virgin anymore, im really really scared now and so badly want it to stop as im afraid of losing my salvation, no one even suspects me of any of this as im froma smallish church and i play in the worship team etc, is losing my salvation possible? i blimen scared as!!! please back up answers / solutions with scripture. help i want Gods plan but soo afraid to get help/tel anyone because of all the trust and loyalty and reputaion that will be crushed, im afraid i will be looked upon as dirt and cast out of church!!
We understand that this is a tough battle that you are going through right now and you need to get it under control with being such a young age. Admitting to the fact that you have and addiction to this is one of the first steps.
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
I have a masturbation addiction, i have had this addiction for 3-4 years. You see it has gotten to the point where i sometimes do it more than once a day, most of the time i don’t even use porn, it is my darkest secret! It is tearing me apart, I also have a specific fetish, i don’t know why i have it but many of the websites i go to say that it is just part of who i am, it is not a “strange” fetish and i dont mind it. But it is the cause of my addiction. I have been praying about it for a long time, this is the first time i’ve really gone into detail about it. Please give me your thoughts and advice, it is part of me that i would rather live without. Thank you.
Duncan,
I would suggest that you find someone who you trust and bring them into this battle with you. This would be an accountability partner who can ask you any question and not be afraid to do it. You have developed a habit and you need to change that quickly. Find this person sit down with them and let them know it all. Because if you leave any of it left out you will always have something that will haunt you.
Hi Ever since the beginning of seventh grade I’ve been addicted to looking at porn and masturbation. I’m now in 10th grade and it is really destroying my life. The first time I did it I thought it was harmless but after a year I was was stuck in this sin and I tried to stop everyday but I just kept coming back to it. I tried a lot to stop like reading my bible and praying but I was to ashamed of myself and couldn’t tell anyone about my problem. The last couple of monthes It has been getting worse to the point of doing it almost everyday and to the point where I don’t even care about anything except pleasuring myself. It is affecting me in all parts of my life and even my parents said today that I look unhappy and have been angry a lot lately but I’ve still never told anyone. I have lost interest in doing what’s right and praying and stuff like that and it is killing me inside every time I do it. I have been thinking about telling my youth leader about it but I have never had the balls to do it. I just hope it doesn’t come to me going to strip clubs and prostitutes and becoming that bad and deep of a sin for me. Please respond with advice on what I should do and pray for me!! Thanks
Confess this to God and tell Him that you want to change and that you want for Him to send people in your life who will help you win this fight. He will hear your pray and He is a powerful God but, He will not just come down here and stop it for you. He will provide you the tools and the resources but, He wants you to step and do this thing.
After you have talked to God about this find someone right away that you know who can be your accountability partner. Someone who you see often and will have the ability to hold you accountable at all costs. Being your age I would suggest it be someone who is your elder and will be able to provide good mature counsel on this issue. This can be someone from your church, family member, and maybe even your parents. I know this step is tough but, you have to do this if you want to get free from this. You will not be able to do this on your own.
After you have an accountability partner you need to sit down with them and build a plan figure out what your triggers are and how they affect you. Get accountability software. If the internet or mobile devices are you hang up and this is where you turn to get your porn, get accountability and filter software right away and get this covered. We have a great program called X3 Watch that you could use for this. Set up a meeting schedule to meet with your accountability partner to discuss how things are going and if you are following your sobriety plan that you have developed with them.
Do not think this will go away over night; you have trained your brain to need this crap and you will need to train your brain that it is not needed and that it will hurt you. Celebrate small victories and do not give up if there are stumbles, keep going and dig in for the fight. Please know that you are not alone in this and that God loves you so much. He will never remove His love for you because of what you did, are doing, or might do during your recovery. We are here praying for you and know that you can do this.
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