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Desire to be free

I’ve been struggling with porn for 6 years and, even though I’ve had some victories, I’m in a new low point in my fight. I feel like I’m losing hope and I can’t get the desire to fight it anymore. How can I reignite the fire inside and get the desire to fight this thing and be free?

From here you need to talk to someone about this and get accountability with your struggles. Sit down and develop a plan to cut this sin right at the knees. Place accountability software on your computer, mobile phone, and/or your mobile devices. We suggest X3 Watch for accountability software which you can download for free at www.x3watch.com. You should also place a filter on your computer as well. We suggest www.safeeyes.com. This would be like having an alarm on your house and then locking the door with both of these on your computer. When you do get a filter you should have your accountability partner set the password so that you can not just change it when you want to look at porn.
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You have to remove this from your life completely. Get rid of any movies, pictures, files, or any item with adult content. Destroy it and be done with it but, when you destroy it do it in a way that will not allow for this to get into someone else’s hands. If the filters and accountability software will not work then you may have to take drastic measures and remove your computer, get an older phone without Internet, or remove the Internet from your computer. It all
comes down to completely removing it and the temptation from your life.
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All too often we work on our habits of viewing porn instead of the reasons why we view porn. You need to get down to the root issues of why you go back to it and keep doing so. This may take some time and effort to discover this. But through talking with people about this or your accountability partner you will begin to see areas of your life, your past, and items that trigger your porn use. I strongly recommend counseling for this as they can really get there a lot faster than we can by providing great tools to deal with the items that arise.
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Everyone is different but, a few things that I have found that worked in my recovery and from other I want to share with you.
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Dive into the word daily. Spend time with God and find out what you have been missing and He will show you things you may not have before.
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Track your day and see when you’re most prone to look at porn. From here developed a daily plan to counter attack these temptations based on your observation of your own patterns.
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Discover your triggers. When you look back and think of when you were most venerable, what was going on at the time? Were you stressed out, tires, bored, angry, or lonely? These are some of the key triggers for people and you need to locate them and be aware of it. When you notice your trigger topic happening you then need to react and move away from it. It may take sometime to notice and be aware of it but, this is very important.
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Share with others: this can also be tough to do but, it will help you grow and heal faster. Also we know how lonely this feels to be trapped like this to porn. We also know that when others see that there is someone else who has been through it or going through it they are more willing to seek help or talk about it. You never know this could be a start to a small group of people who meet and hold each other accountable.
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Please know that you are not alone in this and that you can work through this. Yes; it will not be easy but it can be done. We are here for you and praying for you.

masturbation

It is not so much the porn as the masturbation. I dont like doing this, but i can’t stop. I need help on what to do.

You need to talk to someone whome you know and get solid accountability for this. Tell them your struggle and ask them for help.

Figure out when it is you do this and figure out if there is a pattern to what you do. Are you lonely, borde, depressed, or stressed out when this happens?

Together with your accountability partner develop a plan to help you stop doing this.

Confession to Family

How do you think i should go to my mom about my problem. I really don’t want to tell my step dad or my sister cause i don’t care for their reactions but i know my mom will accept me and will help most efficiently. Just how do you think i should break the ice cause i want to do this as soon as possible… i need freedom.

Joel,

I know it will be touhg but, this is the right choice for you to do. I would just ask her for some time to sit down and talk about stuff in your life. Make it a private place where the two of you are can be alone and not interupted. Tell her everything that is going on and get yourself some accountability support. Find a friend or mentor who can help hold you to this. You can find accountability software for your computer or mobile devices at www.x3watch.com

Please know that you are not alone in this and that there is nothing you can do that will take Gods love from you. Know as well that we will be praying for you as you make this next move.

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